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Ask Morgan
When one writes hardcore porn stories for a living, some people assume that one has a pipeline into the "Infinte Knowledge of Sex." Just between you and me, I'm a writer and make this sort of thing up, but I have been around the block a time or two. I also have a lot of very chatty friends who have a revolving door on their own personal sexual blocks, so-to-speak. So, I am in a position to credibly answer a question or two. On this page will be some of the letters I've received. Should you have a question - or have one of those "I have a friend who..." situations - please e-mail me and ask. Please use either an obscure nickname or false initials to disguise your identity...unless, of course, it is your desire NOT to obscure your identity, in which case, we definitely need to talk...and a false location.
Nicknames I've seen so many times I refuse to use again:
"10 Inch Cock" - I didn't believe it any of the times I've seen it.
"Nervous Virgin" - see above.
"Joe" - there can NOT be that many perverted "Joes" out there.
"Morgan" - it wasn't funny the first time.
On to some of the letters:
I finally met a great guy. He's more sexually experienced than I am, though, but he's been real good about teaching me. He wants to have anal sex and I'm scared. What do I do?
~K.C., Los Angeles, CA, USA
In order to have successful anal sex, there is one crucial thing you must do first. That is: accept your own humanity. In simpler terms, accept the things your body does that every other human body does. Sex can be pretty messy business...especially messy if you're having a lot of fun at it.
In any relationship, one of the parties is more sexually experienced than the other. That's just statistics. You seem to really like this guy, and trust him. So, all you really need is a quick tutorial in how to have successful anal sex.
Anal sex can be fun for both parties
Anal sex can NOT be done too often. Limit it to once a week or less, or your anus will become stretched. Many a happily-in-love gay gentleman has discovered this to his expense, discomfort and humiliation - and not in that order.
You will need LOTS of lubrication. I suggest any of the sterile jellies such as KY from the drugstore or something playful from a sex supply store such as
SafeSexMall.com. (Buying your sex toys online is easy and discrete, and allows you to shop together late at night, which can be a really hot foreplay.)
You will need to be totally relaxed. All of you, but especially your anus. Your boyfriend will accomplish this by taking a well-lubricated index finger and working it into your anus. He'll slide it back and forth until you're relaxed enough to take two fingers or more. This will feel very good to you. Trust me, if you've never had a finger up your ass before, you're going to wonder why you waited so long. Once you're totally relaxed, you're ready for him to enter you...GENTLY.
Since your boyfriend is experienced in this, he knows his cock is of a size your anus can take. (For those of you reading this, there ARE cocks that are just too damned big to have anal sex.) However, I'm going to trust you, K.C., and believe that you're intelligent enough to have already picked up on any jollies this guy would get by hurting you. (If any of you ladies ever hook up with an asshole like that - run like hell.)
Another concern people have is cleanliness. We're all grownups here. We know what the anus is for. A penis may come out needing a quick wash up. If one is concerened, a purchased enema kit and some discrete time in the bathroom will increase a lady's confidence. The gentleman can also wear a condom.
Always practice safe sex. Always. If you two haven't been tested and if you're not in a monogomous relationship - be damned sure he wears a condom. The REASON HIV is more prevelant in the gay community has to do with the ease of transfer of the virus during anal sex. No matter how gentle and careful one is, tiny tears result, and the virus takes a straight shot into the bloodstream. (TINY tears that won't bother you a bit, but are huge to a virus.)
If you rub your clitoris while he is thrusting in your anus, you just might have an orgasm that will bounce you off the ceiling - of the people upstairs.
What feels good to you will feel good to him. His anus is just as sensitive and would like to be played with. The same instructions apply. SafeSexMall.com can provide more than enough toys with which to pleasure him.
There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING GAY about a straight guy liking to have his anus pleasured. No matter what the fantasy is; no matter how the vibrator or dong is shaped; no matter how loud the lady is howling "be my bitch!" unless the guy is ACTUALLY HAVING sex with a man...he's straight. End of discussion on that.
My guy likes to have his cock sucked. I don't mind doing it, but I hate the taste of his cum. There's so much of it and it makes me gag. He takes it personally. What do I do?
~Pat, Ohio, USA
I'm a little bit bothered by the "I don't mind." People should be a little more enthusiastic about the things they do sexually. Perhaps a few techniques will put the zip back into the whole blowjob thing for you.
Your guy takes it personally because knowing that his cum makes you want to barf is kind of a hard one.
Guy's like oral sex for the same reason women do: it feels so damned good.
There's no law that says you have to swallow his cum, especially if his load is so big it's difficult to get it all down.
You can keep your mouth open and let it all drain back out over him again. You can also use it as a lubricant for a fast rub...but he may be too sensitive for that. Try it...but try it smiling.
You can keep a washcloth or something handy and discretely spit the cum into it.
You can announce that you want to give him a blowjob but you'd like him to cum on some other part of your body: your face (a "facial") or your tits. Generally speaking, a woman announcing "I want to give you a blowjob" is well received.
Most of all, remember that sex acts aren't obligations, they're gifts. They're supposed to be fun. If the swallowing part isn't fun, replace it with something that *is* fun.
Note: if you have him cum on some other part of you, it dries fast, turns white, and will make you look like you have a horrendous skin disease if you don't wash it off. Do NOT get up and answer the door after a facial...like I did. It's scares people.
My boyfriend forced me into having a threesome and I discovered I preferred sex with the woman to him. Now he won't speak to me. What do I do?
~Confused, Orgegon, USA
I'm tempted to have you flag down the nearest policeman and have him explain the definition of "rape" to you. You seemed to have missed a meeting or two.
Nobody should EVER be FORCED into doing ANYTHING sexually.
First...be GRATEFUL the sexually threatened asshole won't speak to you. I hope to hell you never speak to him again.
Second...find yourself a nice gay/lesbian bar and meet a nice woman.
Find out if the reason your taste in men was so lousy was because you really wanted a woman.
If you discover you are, in fact, a lesbian, meet a nice woman, settle down and live happily ever after.
To assit you in finding a nice woman!
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